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Homeopathic treatment is effective at treating hormonal troubles such as pre-menstrual syndromes, acne, painful periods, fibroids, polycystic ovaries, menopausal symptoms, and post partum depression. It is great with chronic thrush and cystitis, herpes and other sexually transmitted diseases. It can help improve your sexual desire and improve your self-confidence. It is marvellous for all kinds of emotional issues' from heart-break to nervous breakdown.
In the following excerpt from my book Homeopathy for the Soul, I describe how a particular homeopathic remedy helped a woman through a very hard period in her life, when she found herself struggling to cope with the commitment issues of her daughter's father.
Pulsatilla.
Depression is something Pulsatilla types are particularly prone to, feeling weepy, empty and without purpose in their lives if their personal relationships are not close and nurturing. The depression tends to lift when they are in the company of warm people, unlike much deeper depressive states.
Close relationships are of paramount importance to them, and they tend to define themselves through their primary relationships. They may long for a close and loving relationship, and when they have found a mate, they require a high level of intimacy to feel whole. They feel bereft whenever their partner behaves in a distant manner towards them, and find it difficult to be self-sufficient.
The loss of loved ones or the break-up of a relationship are particularly painful for people in this energy pattern. Such crises result in a tearful depression, where they feel they just cannot cope any more. They may go into a flat, depressive, unresponsive state, as if their life force has drained out of them, punctuated by outbursts of crying. Crying actually relieves the depression and acts as a positive venting of their grief. It needs to be accepted and allowed, and it will probably go on for some time, at least for as long as it is needed.
Early emotional wounding may have occurred somewhere in their history, which has left them feeling abandoned. This could be due to early separation from their mother, or due to their parents' divorce or death. Experiences like these leave them feeling bereft and lonely, and needing a tremendous amount of support. If they cannot get the support they need, they will become needy and demanding in friendships and intimate relationships, in ways that are perceived as clingy.
Bonnie had a difficult relationship with the father of her child: he took refuge from intimacy in his workaholism and found it difficult to open up to her and share his life. For some years, they had been locked into a dance of distance, where as one moved closer, the other one pushed them away. This repetitive cycle of neediness, rejection, and abandonment was wounding both of them deeply. Nevertheless, Bonnie believed in the bond of love between them, which kept her 'hanging on in there', hoping to work through the fears of intimacy in their relationship and eventually break into the more nurturing feelings they still had for each other.
She had to work on containing her own destructive and attacking impulses, which were based on a belief that men were not much good to her. Her father had been unloving and dominating, and she felt he had taken out his frustrations about his loveless marriage on her. Since then she had protected herself from disappointment by putting on a cynical and belittling attitude towards men.
During our work together, she acknowledged that her very first relationship had been with a man who was very loving and nurturing of her, and she realized that even by the age of 18 she was uncomfortable with felings of intimacy because her relationship with her father was so damaged. Bonnie said that she had not been able to tolerate experiencing all these good feelings. They just made her feel increasingly anxious, and eventually she drove him away.
I chose the remedy Pulsatilla for her because its energy pattern resonated with the very painful state of abandonment she experienced whenever her beloved pushed her away. After taking it she experienced tremendous warmth towards herself and others, and a sometimes euphoric joy. It was out of this experience that she was able to heal the hurt in herself and to begin to look at and accept her own part in the relationship's difficulties.
She owned up to her fear of intimacy, which underlay her at times desperate loneliness and sense of abandonment. She began to honour the flame of love she kept for Michael, working hard at acknowledging the softness she felt towards him, rather than retreating into her habitual harsh and judgemental position. She felt at times it was more painful to remain soft in the face of his ambivalence and to keep expressing her love for him, but she decided to stay true to her own deeper truth. While her friends advised her to end the relationship, she believed that the deep love that existed between them was of fundamental importance to her. She repeatedly said that in spite of their difficulties, he was her true love, and the relationship was providing a crucible for emotional transformation, through which she could heal her own wounds.
Now that she had experienced love as something existing within herself, she felt less needy of her partner and more able to accept the love he could show her. As she became less demanding, he became more giving, and they began to define better ways for their relationship to work as a family, in spite of the fact that they chose still not to live together. Bonnie realised that their relationship was about a deep soul connection, and in spite of the conflicts they experienced on a personality level, she continued to honour the deep love underneath their power struggles.
What To Expect as the Remedy Works
By releasing the energy locked into an experience of emotional deprivation, the appropriate homeopathic remedy stimulates your whole being. You begin to fill in the gaping emptiness inside that drives you to reach out for human contact so desperately. This remedy heals your emotional wounding and sense of abandonment. It will allow you to find the internal resources to meet your own needs rather than trying to rely on others to fulfil them. It will dissolve the sense of isolation you feel, enabling you to receive whatever is actually available.
The path to healing involves learning to be alone, discovering who you are inside, and developing the ability to draw on internal resources. Through understanding and healing the pain attached to old experiences you can learn to love yourself. You can enjoy your propensity to give, and be appreciative of all the things friends and family contribute to your happiness.